I have been getting out with my boss for dinner and drinks once every other week or so. I have indefinite plans to go out with a few other coworkers when we have the time and schedules line up as well.
While I have alot of other things to be doing and other people to be hanging out with, I genuinely like some of the people I work with. You never know where you might form new friendships is the way that I look at it.
naw, my coworkers and I don't hang out much together. None of them are terribly interesting. A decade or so ago though? in the dot.com boom? now THAT was fun. we would spend 2-3 nights a week downstairs in the bar. heh.
by the way. I have some fabric scraps left over from my apron projects that would make perfect quilting pieces. They're even in a bin labeled "quilting" - and if its wrong for me to wave these under your nose, I don't care. If you want them, you can have them. you can even have the bin they're in. ALREADY LABELED.
OMG TEMPTRESS! Are you not going to use them? I say unto you: farmer's market shopping bags, fabric covered picture frames, table runners....
If you're not going to use them I'll happily take them off your hands but small, fast projects abound!
PLEASE TAKE THEM! PLEASE - FOR THE LOVE OF GOD HELP ME!
i will not click that link and you can't make me. I love my current ironing board cover. it matches the paint on my sewing room walls. I painted to MATCH my ironing board cover.
This surprises me not one little bit. :)
I suffer from something that is almost universal in the crafty people I know. It's so hard for me to actually use my supplies. The fabric is so gorgeous and if I cut it up and sew it in to something I won't have it anymore! Which is, I know, dumb. It is one thing to have a well-rounded stash that will allow you to coordinate with awesome new fabrics you find, it is another to be hoarding cotton in your closet.
I can so relate!!
And maybe you could go out for one drink (non-alcoholic) to be friendly? You don't need to be FRIENDS but be friendly.
I don't hang out with my office people, although I do go to dinner and theatre occasionally with my boss, and have seen a few of them socially outside of work. But no-one here is social outside of work, and there's definitely no culture of post-work drinks or dinners. Because we don't like each other.
If they're all socializing together it might not be a bad idea to go out with them very occasionally - not to make new friends, but so that you don't become socially isolated at work. And so you don't look like you hate them all. Just to keep the waters calm.
I do not hang out with my office mates. We get along fine, and we're friendly, but I don't want to be friends, I want to be co-workers. I already have friends who are just... friends.
Occasionally, the Management will organize something "Fun!" for the whole division to do as a group. I almost invariably beg off because 1) Management lives in the burbs, always arranges things out there, and I live in the city 2) I don't want to drive back to the city after the number of drinks it would take to make me have "Fun!" 3) I usually have something planned anyway, because of the aforementioned Actual Friends.
On the other hand, I really like my Kind Of Boss, and if we ever switch divisions, I'd totally bring her into the Friend Corps. But for now, she's my Kind Of Boss, and that's just not on.
I hang out with office mates in small doses. I'm lucky that I'm now with a group that has several folks with little kids, so they're not much for the "let's go to happy hour!" kind of event.
I have to say, though, that politically, it might be best to be social every once in a while with them, just so that you have the social connections to grease the work connections, if that makes sense. It always makes things easier to be "one of us" rather than "that woman who doesn't like us," is what I'm trying to say.
Hi. I miss you! I'm glad you're posting more! <3
we have Summer Office Picnic and Holiday Office Party. we have assorted pot luck soirees for whatever where people bring in crap that sits on a table and people eat from it all day long. they're fun while they last, but i wouldn't want to hang out on a regular basis or anything.
in fact, Keith haaaaates it when his boss suggests, "we haven't gone out to lunch in awhile," and then makes everyone in the department go to lunch. at everyone's own expense of course. ENFORCED MERRIMENT is not the way to harbor oh-boy-howdy team spirit at work.
basically, with very few exceptions, when my work is done, i want my interactions with my work people to be done too. (except for, you know, Keith. him? i like.) ;)
I hang out with my work people all of the time. In fact, I frequently organize the happy hours. And bring my own friends along for added fun. I play on a kickball team with my office mate and some other friends. I am... maybe not the best person to ask here. Then again, a lot of my coworkers are also my neighbors. I'm not sure if that makes a difference or not? I will add, though, that we don't look down on the people who don't join us, whatever their reasons. But we don't know them as well, either, and are therefore less likely to jump to help at a moment's notice. I also actually find it really helpful for office communication if I know how someone thinks and operates outside of the office, and can then infer how it is informing the way they are thinking and operating in the office. But no, no, hanging out with those people does not in any way compare to hanging out with Chloe. Still, maybe joining for one drink and then scooting out every once in a while wouldn't hurt? Then you would have more information with which to evaluate whether the time is wasted or not. But then, I'm always a fan of compromise.
We do a Team Night Out like once a month or so maybe? Sometimes longer. Sometimes we have pot lucks at work and stuff like that.
OMG you should see my yarn stash, and the sheer number of bamboo circular knitting needles I have. It's almost obscene. I need to organize it all.